Always go with the choice that scares you the most, because that’s the one that is going to require the most from you - Caroline Myss
I embrace fear like an old friend. I'm not scared of driving at night like I was when I first tried it a few months ago. I've only had my licence since November last year. In my fear of driving, I was more worried about my actions hurting other people, than what other people could do to me. This fear prevented me from getting my licence until my mid 30's. I held my learner's licence for 5 years much to the chagrin of those close to me who were inconvenienced by my fear. The thing is, when you have a fear like this one, most people don't get it. They'll say things like "that's irrational", "it's not that difficult", "oh, you'll be so free when you get your licence!". I've been free all this time, thank you very much. I've managed to get from point A to point B for most of my life without a licence.
"My heart is afraid that it will have to suffer," the boy told the alchemist one night as they looked up at the moonless sky." Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams.- Paulo Coelho
When I delved deeper into the reasons why I feared driving I discovered the root of the problem and it went way beyond just driving. It had the ramification to affect every aspect of my life. I didn’t believe in myself. I didn’t trust myself. I lacked confidence in my abilities. I’ve questioned how this girl got here, the one who has travelled solo in far off places, getting off the last night train at a farther stop in a place I’ve never been and getting lost in laneways and subways but always making it out the other side safely. The one who amidst all this decided to start a handmade business. Where did she go? I had to re-train myself to learn that one small fear consumes and if you let it, you will never ever be free to try anything, be anything or go anywhere.
I still don’t like driving in daylight when there’s traffic about, but I won’t let something that minor stop me from doing anything else. I’m off to catch the bus and finish my book ; )
What do you fear?
What actions could you take to challenge that fear?
What fears have you confronted and overcome?
What freedom will overcoming your fear give you?
Credit of this blog title goes to Ian Brown, from his song F.E.A.R.
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