Today I want to talk about when things do not go our way. You know, the dreaded R word: Rejection. I want to begin this conversation by telling you to remember that there is always power and positive energy in attempting things even if you don't succeed. What this allows us to do is to hone in on what our truest desires are, it teaches us that we need to consider all our gifts individually and as a whole, and to work on learning patience and trusting that our time will come.
In the past few weeks I have been on the receiving end of the big R for opportunities I was really excited about. The toughest one was receiving an email rejecting my application to take part in a creative venture for 2015. I was disappointed for a week or two, but I realised quickly that it ignited my creative fire and determination to keep pursuing what interests me, to keep going. I brainstormed and consider new ideas, business growth and creative projects. I changed my Facebook Page name to better reflect the content of my posts.
The opportunity I missed out on resonated with me immediately and felt just right which was why I took the leap of faith to apply, knowing that a positive outcome was not guaranteed. I knew that it was a bit of a stretch goal and would be a test of my abilities. I have learned - and I think we should all learn that we have all the answers inside of us. The first step is to trust that we can bring forward what we have when the time comes. We know ourselves best and it is convincing others to see who we are, to realise our potential and make a decision based on, in this instance, my online presence, art and creativity and just a few paragraphs of the application. Maybe it was a bit of a long shot, but the attempt matters. It matters because there is no doubt I tried, no regret, no thinking 'I should've applied' or wondering what the outcome would be in the land of shoulda, coulda, woulda. I did my best and wrote my answers from the heart and had faith that if it was the right venture for me, it would work out.
I spoke to my husband about this and what I said to him was this: you will experience failure and rejection and this may occur in greater numbers than success. You cannot win every time, you cannot get a yes every single time. That's unachievable. What you can do is keep going, keep trying, keep applying and if the timing is right, it will happen. It simply makes way for newer, better and bigger ideas that you would never have conceived had you not been knocked back.
My husband and I had another conversation similar to this a few days later. He asked me about something for his own situation, the big what if it doesn't work out? I said I would still be proud of him because I have seen the hard work he has put in. It really is the trying, attempting and investing in yourself that matters.
Moving on a few weeks - we spent last weekend in Kingscliff as he raced in Battle on the Border - the cycling event he was training hard for. He placed 5th in his Grade out of over 90 cyclists. I'm incredibly proud of him. He has worked hard and kept up the pace, never faltering and his exceeded his expectations. You can read his race report here.
Despite the rejections (and in some instances, non-replies!), I can say from experience that they truly did make space for some new opportunities. So here's what is happening after rejection - I was invited to write for a new publication and I'm working on a few new products to add to the Gutsy Girl collection including expansion into some handcrafted and unique ear studs, affirmation art, crystal and cruelty-free feather vignettes and handmade candles.
Coming up: Natural, Certified Organic and Palm-Oil Free products - what's the deal and what works?
Lessons learned at the Big Hearted Business un-conference 2014. It's going to be a good one! #bhb2014 #bighheartedbusiness
Hello, I'm Sharyn: Founder of of Gutsy Girl and Gutsy Girls Will Rule The World. I am the Creatrix of Sacred Circle Leadership Training and Gutsy Mantras.
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